很多时候，人往往会因为个别的原由而长期的待在守候已久的岗位上；可能是同事 也许是上司 也或许是对于工作的那份热诚， 但不可否认的是，在这些华丽的原因支架下，不愿离职的原因多办是因为自己的惰性和安于现有的生活形态。更极端的说，就算是得每天对着自己憎恨的同事或屈就于在每件事情都无法达成共识的老板下， 很多人都会试着咬紧牙关的过活儿，过着周而复始的生活。

这么说可能也太偏激了。 人的本能就是求生。万物大地的演变，促使了人类产生了势者生存的基本求生法则。而求生的途径可说是千奇百怪。只要不涉及自己的某些坚持，不妥协于秉持的价值观，那就能够在职场上逆境求存。这也不外呼是生存的法则。

时不时听到友人抱怨自己的工作有多么的不理想。上司的不赏识，同事的不友善，自己如何的格格不入，之类的埋怨。好了。听完了苦水之后，和友人做了分析之后，我猜想，他应该霍然开朗了吧。没想到，在过不久之后，那天的一景一物又在一次上演，让我不禁摇头叹气起来。这又是何苦呢！

对待工作，我一直都是保持着＜＜开心＞＞的简单原则。可能很多盲目的都市人会认为工作是不可能带来快乐的。没错！我也坚信世上没几个人会完全的从职场上获得人生的快乐。如果真的有，那这些人也太悲哀了吧。真正的快乐应该是从不同层面上获得的满足感搭配上无论是亲情，爱情或友情的众多因素而产生的吧。

那何来的职场上的开心呢？我觉得＜＜开心＞＞可以换化成各种心态；也许是工资带来的快乐，可能是同事带来的欢笑，也不排除老板的体谅所带来的愉悦。无论是哪一类，只要是你觉得开心的＜＜开心＞＞，那就是工作所能给予你的挽留。直到哪一天，这整体的快乐低于推动你离职的动力，那你就变成不快乐了！换句话来说，快乐的定义全由你决定。

那到了＂那一天＂，什么时机才是最恰当的呢？答案是：什么时机都是不对的。无论是筹备或宣布都不会有什么完美的时机。尤其是在筹划的过程。在新东家还未确认的那一天，你必须继续在原先的职位上全心全力，劳心劳力，以免新雇主改变主意使你捕了个空。这是基本的职场理论吧？早前，我就因为要转换跑道而＂密谋＂的去应征。而当我确定了新的职位后，我就立即通知现任的老板，以为这就会换来好聚好散。没想到，事与愿为。现任上司语气里参杂着指责，似乎是语带责怪的认为我应该早些通知他，让他能有更充分的时间做出人事的调动。与此同时，他也很自私的觉得我的决定会殃疾许多人。

没错。站在他的立场，我的离职难免会影响一些人。这是再所难免的。有哪一个机构没有人事调动的问题呢？身为一名领导者，你就应该具有应变的能耐和处之泰然的风范。无谓的诸多牢骚只会使我看不起你的为人和怀疑你的领导能力，也不免增添了离职的理由。

这可能是长期处于某个领域太久所造成的吧。没见过大风大浪，哪来的英勇沉稳。小小的问题就能促使你乱了阵脚，那整个机构的存亡真是危在旦夕了。

某某的离去其实是意味着将来新思想的引进。这是件好事啊。放开胸怀的接受吧！

It was during a get-together meal with my university mates that I chanced upon this group of relatively older working class diners who were taking a group photo, doing the "V" thing. Yes, the "V" thing, which I'm sure most of us do before the shutter snaps that very magical moment.

Thing is, to me at least, there is sort of an age limit to when you can "accessorise" your picture frame with that "V" sign. Apparently, the group that comprised males and females, seemed a bit old to be putting a 30 degree angle between their index and middle finger. It didn't irked me, merely made me ponder on that age ceiling of V-ing. Okay. Before you launch into this whole argument of how life should be without such mindless impediment and that life shouldn't be laden with worthless constraint like this, think about this: Do you cry for food like a baby? So the reality is, people do grow up and out of habits/behaviour that characterised them when they were young. Or younger, if that makes you happy.

That being said, I am not going through a mid-life crisis, thank you very much.

It really is. What makes Man so superior to be lording over animals? What gives Man the right to undo the wrong that we did by re-engineering our primate species?

Accordingly, the fart of cows and lambs are contributing to the greenhouse gases that set to threaten humankind to extinction by their methane content. But haven't these animals been farting since the existance of planet Earth? Ok maybe not that way back in time but the idea is there. So now that Man has managed to fucked up his entire planet, he wants to save himself from dying by re-engineering the stomach of cows and lambs to minic that of the kangeroos? Because kangeroos fart with no methane? What is this world heading towards?

It simply is appalling.

In an office filled with mostly females, silly jokes are aplenty. Am not trying to be sexist here. But seriously, they can be damn farnnie at times and they don't even know they are making a fool!

Read the below conversation for a good laff...

F1: This stupid Samsung phone crashes within a week I bought it.

F2: Oh...that's bad, but it looks good though, seems like a mirror, very glam.

F1: Please. As good as it looks, the performance is really way off. The MOTHERBOARD had to be replaced within days!

F2: Wow, your mother bought for you ah? At least it's free what!
F3(joins in): But I thought your relation with your mother-in-law isn't fantasic. She's willing to buy phone for you?

Me looks at F1...*rolls eyes*

Pengz. Women.

I know I haven't exactly been updating my seemingly abandoned blog for the longest time. Not like I am died or something. It's just because there really isn't much to tell. Ya right, doesn't it sound so familiar. Seems like the whole world's using the same reason. Whatever

Anyway, just the other day, I was caught in a heavy traffic flow along this particular junction. Based on judgment, I obediently stopped behind the yellow box just in case I couldn't make it past when the traffic light turns red. Then, along came this car behind me, overtook me and tried to attempt to Q behind this long stretch of stagnant vehicles on my right lane. Cool move. Well maybe not that cool, since the traffic light did turn red and there he was, stuck in the cross junction yellow box.

Now, the thing is, the traffic started to move towards him on his left, and since he was blocking at least one lane of traffic, I had a really good laugh. Hah. That aside, another brainless moronic trying-to-be-funny car came from his left and horned like forever at this kena stuck car. I mean, cummon, this fella is stuck in a yellow box, bumper to bumper to the car in front, what do you expect him to do? Horning at this bugger is not going to help your situation, and you really should change lane and move on. MOVE ON! But nooooooooo, he kept horning and horning. Seriously, what are you trying to drive at?

That sets me wondering, just how many of us make feeble attempts to grumble and groan without actually making a conscious effort to make any changes. For a simple move like changing to your right lane, it would have allowed you to get on with your life. Yet, you stayed right in your original position, whining and complaining, wasting your precious time.

Okay, maybe I am oversimplifying things here. There are lots of factors to be considered for such a change. Maybe the right lane has a lot of vehicular movement and he couldn’t cut into their lanes; too competitive. Maybe he needs to cut in at the correct instant to avoid an accident; Timing. Maybe he enjoys the current condition, not in a hurry; Too much inertia. Or simply, he loves to whine, never satisfied.

Perhaps.

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You know what's the funny thing? I was watching 300 yesterday and this stupid thought just came to my mind. Alright. Maybe most of you would be thinking, " It's just a movie, don't take it too seriously". But, I just kinda wish to know how many like minded difficult people are out there.

If you have watched 300, ( or for that matter, any other adrenaline filled war epics )you remember the last scene whereby this sole survivor of the 300 perfectly sculpted hot bod guy led 30000 men into war against the persianz. Now the question is, he was so worked up with his emotional and inspirational speech, but just how many of these men can hear him? I mean, you are talking about 30000 men here which is like filling up the whole of National Stadium and he isn't exactly standing right in the centre. So what was actually going in the mind of those outside the audible perimeter? I am quite sure they must be pretty bored.

Imagine:

29999th ripping muscle guy: Oei, what is actually happening in front ah?
30000th 10 pecs abs guy: Dunno leh, waiting for the command lor.
29999th ripping muscle guy: Sure or not, got so long one meh?One "Charge" or "Attack" can take so long meh?
30000th 10 pecs abs guy: You think I got bionic eyes ah, so many bloody men in front of me, how I know? Wait ah, you bend down then i step on you to see what's going on la

*So the 29999th ripping muscle guy bent down (Ok, I know what you guys think, but hey, its a war epic, not some dysfunctional porn) and 30000th 10 pecs abs guy stepped onto him*

29999th ripping muscle guy: So so, what do you see?
30000th 10 pecs abs guy: Wah, that guy so freaking small size from this distance leh. I dunno what he saying la, you think I got bionic ears ah? I can only see that siao-eh walk up and down, so agitated like that. Machiam some drama mama diva leh.Wait, wait, I see him raise his sword.

*Both of them growls and shouts. Kinda delayed as again because of the sheer number*

29999th ripping muscle guy:Just how long do we have to wait before we can see some blood?
30000th 10 pecs abs guy: Should be pretty soon already cos I think he finishing his speech.

*At that moment, the leading guy leaps forward, charging at the oncoming enemy troops*

30000th 10 pecs abs guy: Move already ! Move Already!
29999th ripping muscle guy: Then bloody get the hell down from my back you moron.

*Then no. 29999 and no.30000 can-be-featured-in-Sunday-Times-hodbod-anytime-men raced forward with their swords high to defend their nation*

*Both thinking - So what was the speech just now?*


Very unrealistic isn't it? He didn't have a loudspeaker or a PA system and come on, even our parade commander in NDP needs a mic somewhere to project his voice. So how can they roar in unison whenever he shouts? Either the movie makers think we are dumb or they think we will never noticed that.

You know there are those advertisements which got "ordinary" people to endorse on certain products? I though they are crap. Because 1) you are appearing on TV because you are getting paid, not because you are so noble as to share your new found discovery (which you probably never used before) and 2)those are new products for goodness sake! Like which dentist would know that NEWLY LAUNCHED toothpaste and recommend it to you when you are smiling brightly on TV to get people to buy it? Or do they have free testers or like a focus group for dentists before the product was launched? Which I seriously doubt cos that would be so unprofessional for dentist. Imagine all the dentists sitting together and trying out new toothpaste. Bleah.

Geez, I rather have that fat(okay, maybe just plump) women bouncing off the mattress and telling me to go to their showrooms.

要达到最成功的生意效应首要的条件就是要懂得如何去经营它。就算你知道如何去创造商机又这么样，所谓创业难，守业是更难。相同的，友谊也如同生意一样，是必须要注入某种程度上的经营模式的，否则它将会随着岁月的流逝而转淡。当然，我不是说离开了当时的环境后，友谊能够历久不衰。身处于相同的外在环境的确是有助于巩固友谊的架构，比如说在学校，或在兵营里。相同的环境会产生相同的记遇，也可能孕育出同仇敌忾的感觉，这当然也就是成为好朋友的优良因素。然而，当你脱离了这样的大环境之后，能够维系友谊的就剩下彼此之间的真诚感情了。到了这个阶段就成了‘如何经营？’ 这样一个问题。迈入了生命的另一个里程碑时，上一段的友人不一定会一同陪在你身旁，到时候究竟要放入多少的时间来经营呢？

但，说实在的，我并不是要把真诚的友谊说得复杂，肤浅或麻烦。只是想强调时间所能造成的一些变质。没常联络的朋友也是朋友阿！但，如果少了时间的投资的话，少了彼此的近况或消息的话，那朋友的定义会不会稍微有所改变呢？随着科技的日新月异，随着旷达的地球渐渐成了‘地球村’ ，互相联系真的有那么难吗？是惰性还是看法的差异，我想才是真正的原因吧。

主动并非是我的主张。但我却不会忘记任何与我分享过我部分记忆的朋友。虽然不长见面，或甚至许久并未联络，那份感动还是深埋心里的。（这么说真的会觉得肉麻）而我也知道一直依赖着别人的主动，总又一天也会耗尽他们的耐心。也许是我并未敞开心房吧。坦荡的运用时间来面对和经营友谊的话，我想一定会让感情久久长长的。

And so there was this joke jeering about people who indulge in watching sports events, say World Cup or the Olympics. They spend more time playing the role of a couch potato than playing the sports itself. Simply relying on their eyes glued to the sportsmen sweating their guts out on TV don't lose their weight! ( as much as they inertly wished for, or so do i? hmhm *fat hope*) - Fact number 1

And there are those who hit the gyms rather frequently, yet not much difference in physique was noted. Why? A deeper insight into the gym shows that these people spend more time 1) watching the TV 2) talking to friends 3) looking at guys or gals 4) acting pretty. Having such a diverted agenda rather than pumping the irons, again, don't lose their weight nor make them a hunk. - Fact number 2

And yet, there are some horizontally inclinated middle age aunties, who bring along their kids ( also a replicate of their parental genes ) to those neighbourhood parks thinking that gearing up in jogging attire and sitting down on those sit up benches chit chatting will restore their former ( largely assumed ) curvey figure. The kids did a great job in balancing on the bars meant for locking the ankle while doing sit ups and I can tell they are having a jolly good time. But, hello, knock knock, there are plenty of benches meant for little gatherings like this and you don't have to hog on those exercise areas. Having wrapped up in jogging pants and shoes don't lose their weight. You jog in them. - Fact number 3

All in all, looking at others sweat may perhaps cause your arenaline to rise but that's about it, full stop.

瞬间，昔日的同学们都聚集在了一起，分享着彼此的近况 ━ 有的结了婚、分了手、辞了职、原地打转、等等。查听下，这好像是一般的同学会。但实际上，这会能把稀少出现的朋友聚集在一起的却是一位朋友的丧礼，一位总是碰面时带着微笑与你寒喧的老友，一名开朗而非常有人缘的小学同学的告别式。

昨日的一通电话，为我这位朋友画下了人生的句点。上周的一趟旅程，结束了他短暂的生涯。。。是意外？是鲁莽？是人为？是天气？这一切的一切都不在重要了，因为他不会在有将来了。夺命海啸的残酷实在远不及这位朋友的逝世，而让我重新对生命有了新的体会。听起来是很老套但当你身边的朋友突然从你的生命中消失的那一刻，你一定也会有所体会。

看着他安详的躺在棺木里，我不禁思考着他是否觉得短暂的人生已经足够了呢？敢于冒险的他是不是觉得不枉此生呢？当然，我无法帮他回答这一切的问号但看着他那白头人送黑头人的父母时，我很肯定他一定不愿意让两老尝到此刻的椎心之痛。

在此只想把我万分的祝福送到的天国去，希望在不知的未来我们还有幸能够成为朋友。

永别了。。。。

偶然听到了一则感人的故事，很想与大家分享，让你们也对这个世界持有希望与感动。

故事是说一个病危的父亲深知自己已没多少时间了，在病卧的时期还不忘给予女儿鼓励和希望、答应她在康复之后带着她环游世界。秉持着满怀的希望，女儿盼望着那一天的到来。但遗憾的是，那个梦想在父亲去世的那天破灭了。女儿垮了…她一直认为只要她向往着那天，父亲就会奇迹般的复元。女儿知道这很傻、很天真，但在无助无奈之下，她也只能那么以为。当现实敲醒了悲痛的女儿之后，她很想实现父亲无达成的梦想。于是，她将自己和父亲的名字写在一只玩具小熊的身上，把它交给了一个不认识的旅人手上。旅人答应她会将小熊传递给他途中遇到的另一个有缘人。不管认不认识，他会叮咛下一个人要一直传下去。就这样，小熊开始了它奇妙的圆梦旅程…

时光的飞逝，某电台得知了这个感人的故事后就设法追踪小熊的下落。而在辗转中获得了它的着落。电台将女儿请到了节目中，与德国的一个旅人联线。他告诉女儿小熊状况很好，身上也多了许多配件，都是一路上的人添加的。当下，女儿哭了…不是伤心的泪，而是满怀感激的泪。感动的是，一路携带小熊的人都不认识她，却因获知女儿的故事后不辞辛苦的带着小熊环游世界，让希望和梦想一直一直的传递下去。

是的，带着一只玩具熊在身上并没什么大不了，但重要的是那份心意。人与人之间就是需要这样的帮助与关怀。虽然你能做的不是很多，但一点一滴的力量汇集起来就会是股无穷的威力。不求回报的帮助那才是真诚的。听到了这则故事，实在让我非常震撼与感动，希望它也带给了你些许的回想。生活原来可以那么灿烂！

PS:留意这首歌《圆梦的小熊》…故事就来自那儿。

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炎热的午后。
空荡的屋子。
空虚的心房。。。基本上这就是我星期天的写照。

对於自己，我似乎有了新的了解。但，与其说是了解，倒不如说是确定了我的基本概念罢了。结论？我是名逃避主义者。（别给我一个“谁不知道”的眼神！〕无论是大考、小考，我都从不急于啃书或甚至存有此念头。很不可思议吧？不是因为我聪明或什么。。。我以认了我是个“小时了了，大未必佳”的现实般了，智慧似乎在当兵时就被我遗漏在丛林中了。很多时候，我是知道我是需要拾起讲义然后把那些陌生的理论输入脑袋。但每每，我都不曾成功过。因为害怕。因为我害怕知道些我不知道和不能理解的事物。在“没有读”的遮蔽下，我能对成绩差做一个合理的交代。如果是在我奋发图强下，却落得一样的下场的话，我会很失落的。这失落感就是导致我沦为逃避主义者的始作俑者。

不敢于尝试，不勇于冒险可能就是我往后的致命伤吧。其实，我也忘了我是打从什么时候这般堕落起来。是因为感情上的创伤而导致我对於所有事物都持有同样的态度吗？也许吧。如今，我都是抱着只要不过分尝试，那失败了也可以理直气壮的把它归咎于不曾努力，而不是能力上的问题。好荒谬的人生理念吧？有时我对自己的荒唐也感到吃惊。

往后的日子会是如何，我不知道。该这么走下去我也不晓得。可能我就会如此浑浑噩噩，迷迷糊糊的过吧？当然，我也不会派处有那么一天能看得见生命里的那到曙光。

嗨…又再次暴露了自己的缺点。真是个浑身是缺点的怪人！

情人节
一个过於渲染的节日
一个即陌生又熟悉的节日
一个单身者被审判的节日
一个让情侣们沉浸在彼此中的节日
一个……………………………………

说实在的，当你独自一人度过这一天时，无论你是多么的“单身主义者”，心里头还是会有一股酸酸的滋味。或许周遭的朋友都是双双对对的原故吧。尽管他们再多努力的试图把我融入他们的世界里，他们的眼神中毕竟只会存有对方的身影。孤身处在成双成对的爱情空气中，我似乎差点喘不过气来了。但可笑的是我无论深处在哪一组朋友中，身边的他们都会一一的坠入爱河。唯独我，冷眼的站在岸边，孤立的望着朋友们在河上泛舟。到头来，就仿佛历史重演般，再次的问自己到底问题出在哪里，为什么总是看自己演独角戏？

幸福和甜蜜的爱情感觉，我似乎也已淡忘得差不多了。一想到自己将孤单的走下去，心里不禁不寒而栗起来。但，当我想到维持一段的辛苦和艰难时，我却庆幸自己还是个孤家寡人。可能自己是个不爱受约束的独行侠吧。往往享受着别人都觉得孤单、寂寞的事。这又却却表现出了我极其矛盾的生活模式：向往却又保持距离。显然的，我是个麻烦的家伙而许多人也多认识到了。也许“没有要求”就是变相的“许多要求”？在不限于自己的领域中试图找寻最能符合自己的那个人，但却因没有目标个迷失在缤纷的五光十色中。

很遗憾的，交往的经验我实在是有所欠缺。因为对我来说，维系感情是一项非常艰巨的挑战，是需要两人的付出与坦诚。看着好友如此无私的付出，我自认望尘莫及。也许是自我意识太重了，也许是个人主义太强了，也许是自我防卫意识太明显了……也许……无论如何，憧憬是还有的但都是现实的。向往与渴望已不复存在。剩下的只是对爱情最基本的残渣。

人的生活里还有更多需要我们去操心的。何不把恋爱的包袱先放下，也许就在你不知觉的情况下，爱情快递反而找上门来。这样的惊喜才是值得期待的吧？在那之前，何不高唱一首《明天一个人的我依然会微笑》！

曾经有人说过人一辈子只会拥有一次的真爱。我对这个理论总是有所保留，因为我害怕那唯一的一次已经与我擦身而过了。我清楚知道那个与你私守到老的人往往都不是那个‘真爱’ 。那真爱到底是什么呢？怎么去评估呢？

看了看周遭的朋友。他们找寻对象的方法多半是有机可寻的，而这就是所谓的‘择偶条件’ 。但这些条件却并非是凭空想出来的。很多时候，它们都是岁月和经历所堆砌出来的一个架构。更有趣的是它们也都会有一些共同点。追溯着这些特点，我们又不难发现它们的来源都起自于那个‘他’ 。‘他’ 会这么样，这么样…所以我希望你会这么样，这么样…。那不能忘怀的‘他’ 是否就是你那个真爱呢？那就是评估的标准了吗？当你在不知觉的情况中，试图在别人的身上找寻‘他’ 的影子时，那是否意味这‘他’ 就是那所谓的‘真爱’ ？

到最后，你爱上的是原有的他？还是一个你硬身打造出来的那个‘他’ 的副本？我想你们都累了吧。我想我也一样累了。不是说人都贪新鲜，贪刺激吗？但为何在这个领域里，人都不能释放自己，寻求别的出路。一而再，再而三的留恋于那过去的情谊，疲于找回那曾经伤害过自己的‘他’ 。

对。人是矛盾的，更是可笑的。《欲望城市》里也曾提到━━自己反复的失败感情，原因多半是自己找来的对象都属同一‘型’ 。那确又是一再伤害自己的那一‘型’ 。嗨！看看人多可笑！

人始终还是感情的动物。结束的一段感情并非是个休止符，而是个无边的延续。在反复的逗号后，句号会在那灯火阑珊吗？希望我们都会到达那个句号而非感叹号…还是会是个问号？我疯了。哈哈。

initially wanted to meet up a frd to pass her some things but it seems like her mums back in town so she had to hurry home to welcome.....her presents.....whaha..therefore now i am stuck..aimless and eventless...as usual.

Okay, now i had to share this nice sweet stuff that my frd's boyfrd did for her. Which i tot was really really really very sweet.

1) He always prepare her toothpaste on her toothbrush every morning.....duhz....wic guy in this world will do this!!?!!!?machiam maid..hahaa
2) He helped her tie her shoelace when he sense her having difficulty bending now!! OMG!!!! wonder why she fear bending down..oppss

After she told me wat he did for her, i told her one thing... MARRY HIM!!! i mean, there are juz not many pple in this world who would be so sweet n totful.....GEEEzzzz i almost died on the spot upon hearing this.....

ok i was really very bored...therefore i got this article which i wrote back in sec sch typed in...i couldnt get back the ones that i wrote in college cos they were not published. I kinda liked the ones i wrote in college instead, not so childish but well there r bits n pieces of my life lor:)

But if u guys r sick of chinese post then u can skip clicking on it!!!!!

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